Families come in many shapes and sizes. When the family means, say, two parents and their children, the decision to increase its size, whether naturally or by adoption, is a matter for the members—or perhaps the adults alone. But when the family includes in-laws, aunts and uncles, and distant cousins, it is not evident that anyone’s decision to procreate or adopt is a matter in which Grandma should have a say, let alone a veto—and Uncle Fester’s views are perhaps best ignored.3 Matters are further complicated when one considers that families also grow when parents divorce and re-marry, or when
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