Clarity & Connection (The Inward Trilogy)

by Yung Pueblo

next time you feel agitated because you are falling back into past patterns, remember that simply being aware that you are repeating the past is a sign of progress self-awareness comes before the leap forward in your personal transformation

maturity is knowing that when your mood is down you should not trust the way you see yourself

do what is right for you. do it over and over again. lean into the light. keep going even when it is hard. especially when it is hard. do not let doubt stop you. trust the process when your mood is low. let growth be your mission. let healing be your reward. let freedom be your goal.

taking a moment to figure out how you really feel instead of letting old patterns decide for you is one of the most authentic things you can do

heal yourself, not just so you can thrive, but to ensure that people who cross your path in the future are safer from harm

we often hand our tension over to others without understanding that it wasn’t ours to begin with. someone passed it to us, and so we pass it to the next person, and they to the next, until it lands in the hands of someone with the tools to process it and let it go.

the self-awareness needed to stop causing ourselves and others harm is not just about knowing our own inner mechanics, our trauma, the moments when we are projecting, or how our reactions impact our perceptions. it is also about taking the time to understand what society has encoded in our minds without our explicit permission.

a clear mission does not always have a clear path

time does not heal all wounds; it just gives them space to sink into the subconscious, where they will continue to impact your emotions and behavior. what heals is going inward, loving yourself, accepting yourself, listening to your needs, addressing your attachments and emotional history, learning how to let go, and following your intuition.

if we are accustomed to brave observation and practicing acceptance when inner turbulence tries to bring our attention to an unexplored or unloved part of ourselves, then the moments of friction within us or in our relationships will not become blocks. instead, these tough moments will become fertile ground to deepen our connection and refine our commitments. simply stated, putting the effort into knowing ourselves can only help us know others better. loving ourselves is essential if we want to live a good life.

it is easier to let go of someone’s opinion of you when you understand that others see you through a combination of their past conditioning and their current emotional state without realizing it, they see themselves first, and through that lens they get an unclear picture of you

it is not about managing your emotions; it is about managing your reactions to your emotions

the couples who shine with harmony are the ones who commit to healing and growing together.

one of the toughest things about relationships in which both partners are open to inner growth is when your partner uncovers a thick layer of old conditioning or trauma that they have to work through you see them struggle and face the storm but you cannot fix it for them all you can do is hold space and be ready to give them loving support

conflict worsens when two people fall into defensive reactions. then there is no real communication happening, only trauma arguing with trauma.

how can we have a real conversation if every time we speak i can see in your eyes that my words are not reaching you? they stop at a narrative you have created about me based on who i was many years ago.

your partner should accept you as you are but also help you feel safe enough to do the deep work of healing and growth not because they want to change you but because their presence energizes and inspires you to flourish into greater emotional maturity

true love does not fear change, it embraces new growth and adjusts accordingly.

ups and downs will continue to come and there is still much to learn, but you are calm now and do not fear the old storms, which seem to pass more quickly.

one of the hardest things about saying no is potentially upsetting others. if you know your path and what you need to focus on, you have to be mindful of your limits. save your energy so that you can accomplish the goals at the top of your list. those attuned to inner work will understand and respect your right to say no.

check in with yourself occasionally by asking these three questions: is this the direction i want to be moving in? are my recent choices helping my happiness? what can i change to better support my goals?

when you create something, do not watch its progress with attachment and anxiety create it and let it go give it to the world and let it be feeling stressed over the outcome and radiating vibrations of agitation does not help you or your work

as those who have delved into inner work know, it takes time and self-awareness to break from the past. it takes the repetition of positive and nurturing behaviors that work against the flow of ignorance and fear. more than anything, it takes intentional action that arises from self-awareness to break old habits that keep us from thriving. this process happens at the collective level too. people must think and feel together before they move into action against systems of harm.