Clarity & Connection (The Inward Trilogy)

by Yung Pueblo

internal changes have a significant external impact.

do it over and over again. lean into the light. keep going even when it is hard. especially when it is hard. do not let doubt stop you. trust the process when your mood is low. let growth be your mission. let healing be your reward. let freedom be your goal.

essentials to remember on tough days: practice patience accept what you feel do not punish yourself make sure you get good rest give yourself ample kindness accomplish smaller goals that day do things that will calm your mind a bad moment does not equal a bad life struggle can be a space for deep growth this current discomfort is not permanent

the more we heal our own wounds, the less likely we will be to cause intentional or unintentional harm. perfection is not possible on the interpersonal level. our individual perceptions and changing emotions will occasionally cause misunderstanding and accidental pain, but if we can show up for each other compassionately, then we can remedy the hurt that needs tending.

the self-awareness needed to stop causing ourselves and others

harm is not just about knowing our own inner mechanics, our trauma, the moments when we are projecting, or how our reactions impact our perceptions. it is also about taking the time to understand what society has encoded in our minds without our explicit permission.

a real conversation free from projection and ego-flexing is a special gift most do not talk to listen; they talk to be heard self-awareness, selflessness, and a real desire to listen are required for mutually authentic and honest exchange

sometimes you need to move slowly so you can then move powerfully the modern world is so fast paced that you feel the pressure to keep up setting aside what everyone else is doing and moving at your natural speed will help you make better decisions and lift up your inner peace

when you can be okay with things not having gone a certain way, life begins again. making peace with the past opens you up to love and adventure and allows you to apply the lessons you have learned with a new calmness.

ask yourself: is the connection real if there is no space to be vulnerable?

simply stated, putting the effort into knowing ourselves can only help us know others better. loving ourselves is essential if we want to live a good life.

attachment is not: having desires, goals, or personal preferences attachment is: the mental tension you feel when you do not get exactly what you crave; it is refusing to accept change or let go of control

now i see that i am a river always changing while moving gently in the direction of total liberty

know your sources of rejuvenation: the amount of solitude you need to feel fresh again the activities that strengthen your creativity the people who light up your spirit

a home that equally supports rest and growth

attributes of a good relationship: selfless listening calm communication holding space for each other strong trust, no need to control authenticity, no need to perform rest, laughter, and adventure together the love between you is empowering commitments to each other are clear flexible, no need to always be together both have the space to grow and change

attributes of a good friend: they feel like home they are honest with you they remind you of your power they support you in your healing they have a revitalizing presence they hold a vision of your success they support you in new adventures they lift you up with joy and laughter they bring out the best version of you

and remember that success is both of you feeling heard

make deep connections, not deep attachments

communicating our needs, desires, and personal emotional history gives both people the information they need to better understand each other and the opportunity to feel the natural volition to commit and say, “these are the areas where i can do my best to meet you. this is how i can try my best to show up for you.” in this way, we transform our private expectations into opportunities for commitment.

find a partner who can give you the space you need to be your own person. it is healthy to have different interests, likes, and dislikes. you do not need to become the same person to prove your love to each other. you know you are both supporting each other’s happiness when each of you feels like you can be your truest self. remember, trust blossoms in the absence of control, and

vibrant relationships should feel like a balance of freedom and home.

some friendships are so profound that when you spend time together it feels as though you have slipped into another dimension: a space where you both feel free and safe to share the realest versions of yourselves, a home where time stops and joy shines without limits.

give love, but don’t exhaust yourself be peaceful, but don’t become passive have patience, but don’t settle for less trust yourself, but don’t develop arrogance be open to love, but don’t force a connection have goals, but don’t chase after each craving

you do not need a partner to feel whole you do not need to have everything figured out to feel successful you do not need to be fully healed to feel peace you do not need to be fully wise to feel happy embracing yourself as you are reinforces your worth and decreases the friction in your mind

inner peace is: feeling and being with your emotions without reacting to them; it is the calmness that emerges when you embrace change

six things make inner peace easier: not being afraid of change kindness toward others honesty with yourself intentional actions self-awareness gratitude

take the risk choose the direction you feel burning in your intuition life is a unique opportunity; you can make best use of it when you rise above fear walking the uncommon path is not a certain victory, but it does provide the greatest possibility for fulfillment

an honest and deep conversation with a good friend is sometimes the exact nourishment you need to regain clarity, get back up, face the world, and resume your mission with a new and focused energy

it is not about having light and kind thoughts all the time; it is about not feeding the heavy and mean thoughts. literally letting them pass without allowing them to take root and control your actions.