Part of the allistic disability is that even when you tell them that you aren’t frustrated but they think your tone sounds that way, they assume that you either aren’t aware of your feelings or you are lying to them. This applies to any emotion that they take personally. They will often react to how they think you feel, rather than how you actually feel. So you are left with a difficult choice: trying to make them understand or changing your behavior to their way of doing things. In my case, I chose to revisit and change my tone to acceptable forms for allistics. This is controversial in
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