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Vex King
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November 4 - November 7, 2025
One of the biggest obstacles to inner healing work is a desire to cling on to the past – our inability to let go of what’s been prevents us from moving forward into what could be.
Inner healing is the act of letting go of past conditioning, creating a new, empowering belief system for ourselves, and embracing the unknowns of the future with the confidence that we’re strong and capable – no matter what comes our way.
Being ready to reveal those darker parts of ourselves is vital if we want to draw light into our life again.
My intention in this book is to give you the support and motivation necessary for you to embark on your personal journey to inner healing.
Face your inner child, and heal wounds that you sustained years ago.
Trauma never gives you only one thing. If you look closely, there’s always evidence of a truth beneath the lies that your pain wants you to believe. Because you’ve survived – you’re a survivor.
If you’re hurting, you’re more likely to attract people who are hurting. If you don’t believe in your own worth, others won’t treat you as if you’re worthy of genuine love and respect.
At the center of it all is the idea that loving yourself is the key to vibrating on a higher level, and thus changing your life for the better.
However, vibrating on a high level is more difficult when you have lots of baggage to work through. This doesn’t mean you can’t do it, only that it will take more effort.
The things that have happened to you, and hurt you, are not your fault.
It’s important to replace those negative beliefs with a positive affirmation, such as: ‘I did the best I could and I’m safe now.’
You can’t change your past, but you can choose to make your future a lighter place. Here’s the thing – it’s your responsibility to heal yourself.
surround yourself with people who vibrate with the positive, beautiful power of universal energy. Give yourself permission to be lifted up, instead of believing that you deserve to be dragged down.
That every time you pick up this book and read a page, or step out of the front door with your chin up, or cry huge, infinite, gut-wrenching tears, the end goal is you. Connecting with you. Feeling good as yourself. Believing that you deserve the best life you can possibly live.
Bad relationships may hurt us, but good ones? They make possibilities infinite. They’re essential. And you deserve to have them.
As a result, the trauma you suffered during your childhood could be governing the way you handle experiences and your emotions right now.
If you’d like to learn more skills for managing painful emotions, I suggest finding a therapist trained in teaching a treatment called Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).15
It’s important to understand that setting boundaries isn’t a way to get rid of people, but a way to keep them in your life without destroying your inner peace.
When you establish healthy limits in your relationships, you give those relationships a space in which they can flourish and grow.
You deserve to do the things that lift your spirits and soothe your soul – this healing process doesn’t have to be all hard.
Life is still a big, beautiful experience to be lived! You’re still a miraculous arrangement of atoms, a unique expression of energy, and you’re meant to be here.
Reparenting is usually taught to parents because it’s a way to care for yourself as an adult at the same time as caring for your children, and to address your childhood trauma so you don’t pass it on to your kids.
All experiences – good and bad – have something to teach us. But not all experiences are worth weaving into our understanding of who we are and what we want.
Imagine sitting down with yourself as a child. You’re an adult, and you look your childhood self in the eye. You know what this child has learnt. You know what’s going to hurt them and hold them back as they grow older. And you get to say, ‘Hey, that thing you learnt? It’s not true. I completely get why you believe it so deeply, and I know that letting it go might feel hard. And it’s OK if you need to cry or shout or scream about it. But it’s not true. What is true is that you deserve love, and to know that you’re safe, and that you’re good.’
Working through the practice of relearning your needs doesn’t mean you had bad parents, or that your parents didn’t love you. It just means that your parents were, as all humans are, imperfect; their care for you was influenced by their own limitations, beliefs, and past experiences. They may have done the very best they could with what they had at the time – and it’s not an insult to them when you take action to give yourself the care and love you’ve always needed.
But people who are vibrating high, vibrant, alive with energy? Always curious. Always.
Your true Self may be obscured by layers of experience and expectation, but you can always return to being truly you.
We’ll always be connected to the things that have hurt us, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. The connection between us and our trauma can become our strength; it can give us empathy, allow us to support others, teach us what we’re capable of, and remind us to appreciate the crystalline beauty in mundane moments because we know how bad things can be. We know that this moment is good because we’ve lived through terrible ones.
When emotional pain and fear have settled into us, we develop defense mechanisms to keep us safe.
You’ll stop believing the lies that your pain tells you – because you’ll be more certain of yourself and you’ll be developing skills that allow you to question things, and be curious, and recognize that there’s always another way of seeing something.
Become aware that you’re here. In this place. In this moment. Notice any sounds that you can hear outside the room. You don’t need to do anything. Just notice. Allow the sounds to be there.
And then consider this question: What is true about you in this moment? Answer it silently in your mind, and without feeling any pressure to come up with a ‘right’ answer. Answer it in any way that feels right to you. You might start with what you can feel… It’s true that you can feel the connection between your body and whatever it is you’re sitting on. It’s true that you’re breathing. It’s true that you’re healing.
true that I’ll move past this moment and enjoy the freedom of my existence in this life.
Another of those painful things that fear makes us believe is that our lives can never change.
Remember, we can create an emotion by thought alone. We
It’s fine to respond to your negative thoughts with positive, empowering ones – turning I can’t do this into I’ve done it before and I can do it again –
No matter what’s in front of us, if the lens we’re using to perceive it is cracked, it will never look and feel as good as it’s meant to. Self-care is a simple way to fill the cracks in your lens with gold.
You’re free because you know that whatever comes your way, you’ll be able to accept it and work through it. You’re free because you welcome the full range of emotions that are part of being a living, breathing, feeling human.
And your ultimate strength is knowing that you can return to equilibrium; that your true, peaceful Self is always there, no matter how much clutter and outside stuff is muddling how you interpret things in any given moment. The surface might be choppy and hard to handle, but the water beneath is always still. You’re capable of looking beneath the surface and seeing that the stillness is always there.
It’s all to come. Life is wide open. If there’s one more thing I’d like to ask you to do, it’s to trust. Trust that you can feel free; that you will. And when it happens, and you’re in that moment and feeling the lightness and openness and peace, trust that it’s real and that you deserve it. Your pain isn’t talking. Fear isn’t taking the lead. You are.
The more people who accept themselves, and know how to care for themselves and heal from challenges and trauma, the better. Because each one of those people, including you, will go out into the world and radiate more love, kindness, hope, and positive innovation.
People who accept themselves can accept others. And that can change the world.
The hurt, the heartache, and the hell you’ve been going through… it won’t last forever. You will heal. You will experience new highs. Your life will feel like heaven. There’s a greater plan for you.
