Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom

by Vex King

You have the potential to make your promise real

One of the biggest obstacles to inner healing work is a desire to cling on to the past – our inability to let go of what’s been prevents us from moving forward into what could be.

Sometimes, that lack of effective processing occurs because the experience was deeply disturbing, shocking, upsetting, frightening, or hard to understand, or because it happened to us when we were very young and our brain hadn’t developed sufficiently to work through it fully.

I was willing to undergo the pain of change in order to break my attachment to her. I had to resist the urge. I had to start a new chapter.

when I learnt to put my ego aside and welcome the potential of a new life, there was no going back.

You have to confront your own perspective on the world, on yourself, and on other people. And you must invite yourself to accept the possibility that you were wrong – that things weren’t always the way you thought they were.

Trauma makes us thin-skinned, overly sensitive, hypervigilant, and prone to pain. And it’s often all-encompassing, too, so our attention is focused on the pain and on desperately trying to avoid more of it.

the astral body can develop, and we can focus on it to change the way we think, and to create new patterns, habits, and new motivation to learn and change.

looking up at the stars and appreciating how small you are – in a liberating, wonderful way.

Trauma doesn’t exist in a vacuum – it affects all seven of our bodies. And because each body plays a part in how we feel, move, breathe, act, and live, inner healing cannot take place if only one body is healed. We have to work with all seven, and allow new connections to form between them.

Gain a new ability to look back on hurtful situations without feeling the pain all over again. Every single time.

Overcome negative behavior patterns that developed following traumatic experiences or events.

Let go of your ‘limiting beliefs’ – the unconscious beliefs you hold about yourself and the world that limit the way you live your life – and create a new set of beliefs that mak...

Face your inner child, and heal wounds that you sus...

There’s no such thing as failure. No matter how many times we fall down, we can always get back up again.

if you’ve been through any kind of traumatic experience in your life, it’s probably settled into your physicality somewhere

When it comes to healing, awareness is key.

mind: I will give my attention to the areas that have asked for my attention. I will heal what needs to be healed.

Any thought, emotion, sensation, or experience that you try to resist or avoid exposes a space inside of you that’s calling out to be healed

In other words, you don’t need to be scared of the things you feel a strong aversion to.

Long after a traumatic experience is over, it may be reactivated at the slightest hint of danger and mobilize disturbed brain circuits and secrete massive amounts of stress hormones. This precipitates unpleasant emotions, intense physical sensations, and impulsive and aggressive actions.’

(there’ll be good days and bad days – and there won’t always be any obvious reason why we’re suddenly stuck in the depths of a really, really bad day),

self-healing is chaotic.

when you can raise your vibration during your inner healing work, it becomes much easier to accept trauma, move through pain, and confront challenges with a kind of steadiness – because you know that this will pass. You know, deep in the core of your being, that you’re worthy of feeling better.

It’s not that trauma is always something that’s done to us or caused by other people – although it often is – but that those we spend time with during or after a traumatic experience have an immeasurable effect on how we manage our emotional pain.

how damaging a lack of appropriate empathetic support can be.

When something traumatic happens to you, or near you, there’s no going back to the way things were before.

The things that have happened to you, and hurt you, are not your fault.

it’s your responsibility to heal yourself.

Give yourself permission to be lifted up, instead of believing that you deserve to be dragged down.

People hold different opinions and expectations and these are ever-changing.

It’s happened, and it’s over. There’s nothing more to think about.

Because love and trust are non-negotiable. We need them. We cannot get better on our own, or by hiding away for the rest of our lives.

Yes, we need to do a lot of our healing work on our own; however, we also need to be able to talk freely, to cry in front of someone, to lay our broken heart bare and know that space will be held for us to put it back together again. None of us – not one single person – is born with the capacity to be alone and be healthy and happy.

Trauma feeds the fearful, wounded aspect of the ego and drives us to make decisions based on that pain. In contrast, when intuition guides our decisions and communication, we act from a place of love and steadiness.

No intense need to justify yourself with logic.

The willingness to surrender to the unknown.

An anxious and fearful assumption or judgment.

A dramatic, even frantic, voice.

A feeling that your heart is sunken, and your mind is dark or gloomy.

Focused on the past – and perhaps using the past to justify your response.

Resistance to the unknown; the sense that you must stay in control.

Any kind of trauma may have an impact on us, but early childhood trauma is arguably the deepest and most difficult to release.

It’s important to understand that setting boundaries isn’t a way to get rid of people, but a way to keep them in your life without destroying your inner peace.

Initially, you may feel that you have to include apologies or disclaimers within these statements. Resist the urge – remember that you deserve to communicate your needs and to request that other people meet them. Equally, the other person is free to communicate their own needs, and you can make it clear that you’ll listen if and when they decide to do that. Setting boundaries in this way gets easier the more you do it.

All the time. The things your parents didn’t heal from have had an impact on your perception of the world.

When we carry our trauma with us it’s almost impossible not to share it – even if we try to hide it and pretend it was never there. Because that hiding, that suppression, is in itself an expression of trauma that can be transferred to other people.

comparison is a part of the natural brain mechanisms that function to drive self-improvement.

Because we were judged, we become our biggest inner critic; and we also learn to judge others against the same benchmarks we judge ourselves.

Being judgmental toward others.