discuss what each of them is experiencing. Next, they should use the transition framework to structure that talk and to realize that relinquishing old arrangements and being left in the neutral zone is always difficult and confusing. The distress you feel isn't a sign that the other is being unfair, any more than it's a sign that you are defective. It's just that you are both in the midst of a significant life transition and it's taking its toll. Like any transition, this one could bring you out in a better place.
