We strive to independently define our identity, but we are always dependent upon others for the recognition of that identity. The resolution of this tension is simple but idealistic: we want everyone to recognize and affirm our identity precisely as we define that identity at this moment in time. No one has the right to define me, but in order to have an identity, I need them to see and affirm me. And in order to get people to see me, I need to express myself—a lot. The more people who witness and affirm my identity, the more secure I feel. I believe this partially explains the glorification
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