Let’s look at another example: If you yell at me again I’m removing myself from this conversation. That’s not a request, it’s a boundary. Like the previous example, you still don’t have control over whether your partner yells at you. However, you do have control over whether you remove yourself from the conversation. See the difference? If your partner yells again, you follow through by removing yourself from the conversation. Again: It’s not about controlling the other person, it’s about deciding what you are and aren’t willing to live with.
