Don’t view your partner bringing up growth areas as a personal attack. Instead, view it as them wanting to improve the relationship, which also benefits you. If you don’t like how they’re bringing the issue up (e.g., being disrespectful), address the disrespect while staying open to examining the actual issue they’re bringing up. Constant defensiveness and an unwillingness to acknowledge your areas of growth will lead to slow-roasting your relationship to death. Having an area of growth doesn’t mean all of you is terrible, so be careful not to fall into that type of dysfunctional
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