When I used to think about communicating, I thought being a wordsmith would convince my partner to see and understand my views. I would use logic to clearly explain how her views were wrong and mine were right. Of course, my intent was to shoot down her point of view and hold up my own. Problem solved! Except, it doesn’t work that way. It never worked. Zero is precisely the number of times it worked. Your partner needs their perspective acknowledged and validated, not obliterated.
