Communicate Your Feelings (without starting a fight): What to Say and What Not to Say to Your Partner (Mental & Emotional Wellness Book 1)

by Nic Saluppo

Keys to Remember Directly state that you’re frustrated so it doesn’t unconsciously toxify your communication. “I feel frustrated.” It’s that simple. It’s okay to feel frustrated. What’s not okay is when your frustration leads to mean, rude, and disrespectful communication. Instead of saying “You always/never do such and such,” use the term when. “When you don’t make the bed at all during the week, I feel upset.” Go for the Big Ask. “I’ve been the one making the bed each day. Would you be willing to make it on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays?” When you go for the Big Ask, use a sincere, respectful tone of voice. If your partner senses sarcasm or an attitude, defensiveness and arguing will result. In some cases, a partner will comply with a request made in a sarcastic or disrespectful tone of voice, but silently, they will feel bitterness toward you. Easily remove the risk of defensiveness, arguing, and resentment by keeping a respectful, warm tone.