Next, those who experience a catch-22 often end up utterly confused. The catch-22 goes like this: Your caregivers encouraged you to share your feelings with them. They might say things like, “Talk to me; you never tell me how you feel,” or, “I just want to know what you’re thinking.” Then, when you do tell them your feelings, they say, “Here’s why you shouldn’t feel that way,” proceeding to explain, in detail, why your feelings are wrong. Such a catch-22 can be utterly confusing, especially to a child who has no ability to decide for themselves whether the caregiver’s approach is appropriate
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