Additionally, you don’t even need to be angry and yelling to create a fight. Your words can be just as detrimental even if you’re saying them quietly and calmly. In fact, this could be more challenging to work through because the person saying these phrases can always fall back on saying, “Look, I’m not yelling, am I? I’m calm, see?” Sure, but you’re still being sarcastic, cruel, and disrespectful. Harmful communication has been camouflaged beneath a calm external demeanor. This is a common manipulation tactic, and you’ll want to be aware of it.
