The delicate dance required to make my white peers feel safe sucked the life out of me. And even when I was trying to not “be the issue” or “cause drama,” I still got the same responses: “You’re taking things too seriously.” “It’s not always about race.” “Not all white people…” “Not my experience…” “I have a Latina friend.” “Are you sure that is what happened?” This is white peoples’ coded language for: “You’re being too aggressive,” or “You’re being too Brown,” or “You’re making me uncomfortable about my racism.” Instead of addressing their own issues, they will vilify you.
