I patiently explained to her the situation, and in so many words she told me that I was being homophobic—this white student was also queer. And because she was queer, she felt that her whiteness was invisible, or should have been. She leaned into her queerness and said nothing of her whiteness. I did not continue the conversation with her, because talking to white people about entitlement and how much space they take up is hard, but talking to a queer white person is harder. She thought her whiteness was canceled out by her queerness. Somehow she couldn’t be an oppressor, because queer people
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