“People are attracted to one another,” Dr. Gross interjected, “because of perceptions at the time: special gifts, perceived benefits, the satisfaction of needs in the association. In that sense, we are all meeting the needs or failing to meet the needs of others. When needs cease to be met as expected, the attractions begin to disappear, and repulsions replace them. If that’s being used by someone, then we’re all tools in one way or another to those in our milieu.”
