Brian was hot, spontaneous, and fun. But also unreliable. I never knew if he’d text me back or come over when he said he would. He knew how much I liked him. He’d act interested one day and aloof the next. I never asked myself questions like this: Is he kind and thoughtful? Do I trust his judgment? Would he remember to take our kids to the dentist? (If his own dentist-going habits were any indication, no, he would not.) Looking back, I wonder why I, someone who wanted to find a serious partner and create a long-term relationship, desperately tried to convince him to date me. Why did I keep
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