And evaluative dating isn’t merely unpleasant; it’s also a terribly inefficient way to find a long-term partner. In this chapter, I’ll teach you how to shift your dating mindset from evaluative to experiential. From reviewing résumé qualities and asking, Is this person good enough for me? Do we have enough in common? to getting out of your own head and into the moment; to asking yourself, How do I feel with this person? To paying attention to what unfolds when you’re together. To dating with an attitude of curiosity. To allowing yourself to be surprised.
