Give Them Lala

by Lala Kent

There’s a real, physical pain you get deep in your gut when you know someone is lying, and it was a pain I never wanted to feel again. In fact, this very moment set the tone for my future relationships, because never again would I allow myself to ignore that feeling. Never.

They understood that bereavement is messy, and it goes beyond just being hurt. They knew that it can shatter the very foundation you walk upon, your sense of self, your idea of what the future looks like. They related to how it ends your innocence and forces you into an adult understanding of our mortality that can be unbearable. But not everyone has gone through that kind of loss. And it’s impossible to expect them to understand how grief can turn you into the darkest, least reasonable version of yourself.