Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home for Your Soul

by Najwa Zebian

How do you continue to fight when there’s no one but you on the battleground? How do you fight when someone has already raised your white flag for you? How do you say goodbye to someone who’s already gone? Who’s already left and is just informing you of their departure after they’ve reached their destination?

You can heal a recent wound, but if you haven’t come to terms with your past wounds, you can be sure those wounds will turn into scars that will continue to define you.

Home is not a physical place. It is the place where your soul feels it belongs, where you can unapologetically be yourself, where you are loved for your authentic self. Home is the place where you don’t have to work hard just to be loved.

believe that every moment we live is connected to all the other moments. Some moments we live now are connected to moments ten or twenty years from now. And we don’t see the connection until that future moment happens. And it’s kind of like an ah-ha moment when you say, “Now I understand why that moment in the past happened.” It’s like a sweet trick of the universe.

We trusted someone else with pieces of us. The emptiness we feel doesn’t mean we have nothing to give, or that we have nothing within us. It’s just that we built our home in the wrong place.

When you don’t know what home looks like, you take whatever you’re offered.

We each have our own third space. It’s the space in which we feel we are our authentic self. It’s the space that contains all our preferences for how we would like to live our life. It’s the ideal space in which we feel fully and wholly represented. It’s…home.

That is one of the most defeating forms of self-oppression—to know you have power, but not use it. To know you have a voice, but not speak. To know you are in the wrong place, but stay where you are. To know you have so much potential, but not use it.

An award that would tell me I was doing great,

Once you have built a home within yourself, you are unstoppable.

You are able to see people’s actions and words as separate from what you know and believe about yourself.

You can’t deprive yourself of the belief that you deserve that until you look like, feel like, and have the things and people in your life that you believe will make you have that.

Your healing is a personal journey.