Ask yourself: Why does this stimulus (behavior, comment,…) really hurt? What are my options for responding? List at least three and organize them in order of least to most severe. Is it something I need to respond to? You figure that out by determining whether your response will actually alleviate the hurt it causes. If yes, what’s the most effective (is it powerful?), efficient (is it worth my energy?), and constructive (will it effect change?) response? If no, don’t respond.
