OUTLET #4: CUT THE CORDS In Sparks of Phoenix, I used the analogy of a marionette: He attached strings to my self-worth and played with me like a marionette. If I could rewrite that poem, I’d say: I attached my self-worth to his acceptance of me. I said, did, and felt what I thought I needed to say, do, and feel to be worthy of being loved, seen, and heard. step 1: Sit in silence. step 2: Close your eyes or focus on one object. step 3: Imagine a person who hurt you. Think of all the power you’re giving them, as represented by the cords that tie you (the marionette) to them. Each cord
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