Abbie remembers an acharya (a high-ranking teacher) toward the mandala’s center, a wealthy white man whose wife was, in Abbie’s words, “a total asshole.” Milking the limited authority available to her, the wife would revel in making worker bees like Abbie perform menial tasks, like handwashing napkins or repeating tedious rituals in front of her. But whenever Abbie tried to bring up the wife’s actions to a shastri (a low-ranking teacher), she was delivered the same thought-terminating cliché: “Why don’t you sit with that?” This was a bastardization of a key Buddhist teaching, which says to
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this reminds me of booktok's problem with toxic positivity, or even like how if you criticize a beloved celebrity with a toxic fandom then their fans will always defend them or make it into a situation where they'll say you hate women
