Guilt and Remorse We often experience guilt or remorse when we act in a way that violates our own values.36 I would advise you not to eliminate this impulse completely, as it can serve a useful function by promoting your values. But we need to calibrate our conscience to activate at the right times and not the wrong ones. Say you find yourself in a difficult situation and have to make a decision. In retrospect, you realize you made the wrong one. You experience a wave of guilt and regret that lingers for months, or even years. Though you may believe this feeling is justified, I would argue
...more
