Dr. Perry: Yes. If I get hungry, I get up and make myself a sandwich—I self-regulate. But as you said, the infant has to rely on adults to help her with this. Caregiving adults provide external regulation. Over time, these responsive adults help the child’s brain begin to build self-regulating capabilities. And as we’ve mentioned, one of the most powerful tools we use to help regulate a distressed infant is rhythm.
This makes me think about when Cameron was younger, and the invoke thing was to let them cry it out and it still makes me feel bad that that’s what we did
