What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

by Bruce D. Perry

We elicit from the world what we project into the world; but what you project is based upon what happened to you as a child.

“When you find an addiction, do not be ashamed. Be joyful. You have found something that you have come to this Earth to heal. When you confront and heal an addiction, you are doing the deepest spiritual work that you can do on this Earth.”

Such an interesting perspective on addiction and how it is a way an act of resilience to try and seek joy/ relief/ a want to feel better. Dig for that motivation

The good news is that with use, with practice, these capabilities can emerge. Given love, the unloved can become loving.

If, in the first two months of life, a child experienced high adversity with minimal relational buffering but was then put into a healthier environment for the next twelve years, their outcomes were worse than the outcomes of children who had low adversity and healthy relational connection in the first two months but then spent the next twelve years with high adversity.

We are chasing symptoms, not healing people.