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“At the very least, there should be a semblance of respect and predictability. You should know that you will be treated well, that you will get the same person every day with regard to personality, and for the most part mood, and you should never agree to walking on eggshells.
The one where the question is asked. Love? Friendship? Check the box yes or no.
“However large or small a group is, the addition of one person will forever change interactions, and preexisting ground rules no longer apply.”
“We’re odd, we humans,” she would say. “We know people die, but we act astonished when it happens. What is astonishing about death is our certainty that it isn’t going to happen to us or anyone we know without some kind of warning. And, we live our life doing stupid things
like gossiping, when we should spend all our days planting flowers.”
Being the only person taking care of the world is hard work.”
didn’t even consider pulling it out. I just hoped it flowered.
As I said, thanks is one. Also try, We’re different; Good to know; Hmmmm, I’ll think about that; and if they say something offensive, just say, Go Badgers and don’t follow up with anything.” “Go Badgers?” “Look, an inappropriately aggressive or intentionally wacky question or statement deserves an equally wacky response.”
you were a child and you were taught to avoid fighting at all costs, you never got to see the rewards of having the hard conversation. If this continued as you aged, you got the message that the spoils must be so terrible, so ungodly horrible, that nothing was worth an argument. When you were an adult, you could reason yourself out of that, see evidence everywhere that wasn’t true, but your child hid and whispered, But what if the result is worse than the fight?
