Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

by John Kim

Loneliness is the struggle that needs to be overcome. Once you conquer it, only then will you feel happy.

Radical acceptance is the practice of accepting life on life’s terms and not resisting what you cannot change.

Radical acceptance is about saying yes to life, just as it is.

Love and relationships are only one part of your life, not your entire life. There are so many other aspects of your life that are meaningful and fulfilling. Your art. Your career. Exercising your voice and the dent you’re going to make in this world. Your friendships. Your family. Your passions and hobbies. Your curiosity leading you to explore, learn, grow, and expand. When you actually build your own life, a life that is honest to you and stands on its own, the fear of being alone starts to fade.

We continue to drift further from ourselves, and the more we disconnect from ourselves, the more we crave connecting with someone else.

Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself.

We are not born just to do things. Or just to love other people. Our potency and our path forward are first found in our connection with ourselves. And it’s through this connection, this evolving, growing, expanding relationship with ourselves, that we honestly, genuinely, and meaningfully do things and love people.

Reconnecting with your spirit can be anything that brings you back to yourself, that makes you feel alive and human. That allows the essence of you to shine.

Words turn into actions more easily than actions turn into words.

we feel like we have to. And whenever we feel like we have to do something, it never lasts. We keep putting Band-Aids on the problem instead of finding true healing, growth, and transformation.

But I’ve accepted my body. It is mine. I can work with it. And there are parts of it I can change. I can build a better body, a stronger body, but only if I accept it first. Everything starts there.

It’s really easy to feel ugly in our world.

If you don’t drop into your body, accept it, listen to it, and feel it, you will not know yourself, or like yourself. You will make decisions that are not honest to you. You’ll become a walking shell.

Although our thoughts are our own, they have been influenced by teachers, parents, boyfriends, girlfriends, and unhealthy experiences. We acquire desires that don’t even belong to us.

Know that thoughts are not facts. They’re just thoughts. They will come and go. Don’t get attached to them and allow them to get so heavy and negative that they drown you.

If you see yourself as an experiment and distance yourself from your thinking so you stop allowing your thoughts to have power over you, you can do more than you believe you can.

The desire to know your soul will end all other desires. —RUMI

The soil for growth is so rich when you’re single. But only if you are focusing on you. Not on finding someone else.

Many of us forget that a rich colorful life doesn’t just happen. We have to engage in it for color to appear, and it requires effort and intention.

we are drowning in what-ifs instead of living in what is. We have left our lives because our heads have taken us hostage.

So we live in time machines without realizing that dwelling on the past and the future creates nothing but anxiety.

Worth is not something you believe. Worth is something you build. Read that sentence again. Most people think they can white-knuckle their way to worth. But you can’t. It’s a process. More accurately, a space.