Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

by John Kim

Before I began chasing things that weren’t honest to me.

It makes me feel something when the rest of life makes me feel numb.

Reconnecting with your spirit can be anything that brings you back to yourself, that makes you feel alive and human. That allows the essence of you to shine.

Do you like yourself? We’re not talking about your nose or your butt. Do you like who you are at your core? If not, think about how you may have disconnected from your body, spirit, and soul. Why do you think that happened? What locked-away parts of yourself do you need to release in order to reconnect with yourself? Or maybe to establish a relationship with yourself for the first time?

What’s one thing you can do this week to start this connection? What can you do at work? In your relationships? In your relationship with your body? Don’t just write down ideas. Write down the actions you can take, and then execute them. Start the journey of liking yourself.

How is your relationship with yourself these days? Forget about loving yourself. Do you even like yourself? If not, why? What happened? Is there something you need to let go of or accept? Do you need to forgive yourself for something? Do you need to cut the bond keeping what you do tied up with what you’re worth? Are you answering honestly?

Not just in action but also in words. Actions and words go hand in hand. If someone treats you well but speaks to you like shit, that’s not love. Or if someone speaks to you with love and kindness but treats you like shit, that’s not love. It comes down to actions and words, and they should line up. That’s how you love someone. Anything else isn’t love. And if it’s not love, there is no way to build a healthy relationship. Sound

Practicing self-compassion and forgiveness, which, by the way, is a daily choice. Being easier on yourself. Giving yourself space to be human. Self-care is building a better relationship with yourself by listening to yourself and giving yourself what you need and deserve.