It doesn’t really work if you engage in life only when things are good. You must engage even when things are bad. Especially when things are bad. Many people run or numb when life turbulence hits. To engage means to allow yourself to feel through the bad times, knowing it’s not forever. If you’re grieving, engage in it. If you’re lonely or going through a breakup, engage in it. If you’re going through a huge life transition, engage in it. Engaging even when things are bad doesn’t mean allowing yourself to drown in it.