Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

by John Kim

if you muster the courage to start working on yourself instead of just focusing on who you’re going to love, the universe will work through you to make your story bigger than you.

I’ve been through some shit, just like you have. And I didn’t come out the other side. Because there is no other side. Your journey never ends. It just changes as you change. But the journey only happens if you decide to go on it.

Asking myself Where am I going? before asking myself Who is going with me? Love and relationships are only one part of your life, not your entire life. There are so many other aspects of your life that are meaningful and fulfilling. Your art. Your career. Exercising your voice and the dent you’re going to make in this world. Your friendships. Your family. Your passions and hobbies. Your curiosity leading you to explore, learn, grow, and expand. When you actually build your own life, a life that is honest to you and stands on its own, the fear of being alone starts to fade.

We continue to drift further from ourselves, and the more we disconnect from ourselves, the more we crave connecting with someone else.

Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself.