One of the greatest misconceptions about healthy sex is that you don’t need to put any work into it. That it’s a natural act. You just get naked and it’s all good. That’s not true, though. You have to work on sex. I start with communication. I try to tell my partner what I like and don’t like and encourage her to do the same. I explore. Switch it up. Play out my fantasies. My partner’s fantasies. Try things I may have labeled or judged. I try to see sex as a form of self-expression. Not just a means to having an orgasm. Sex is a shared space where you get to know and connect to another person
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