What I needed was an identity. I had lost it in my marriage. I had no sense of self. No life direction. I was the guy married to her. That’s it. That’s all I was. So I held on to the marriage because, without it, I didn’t know who I was. And since I didn’t know who I was and had no sense of self, I didn’t feel like I had any value. Because of my low self-worth, I put her up on a pedestal. She was “out of my league.” That made her a trophy, not a wife. And without her, I was worth less. Closure to me meant finding an identity and building a sense of worth. It took me nearly a decade and a total
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