I learned that I’m not a dater, that I’m the happiest when I’m in a monogamous relationship, and that’s okay. I like thinking about one person and building something with that person. I learned that discovering someone new is exciting, but that the best sex and the deepest intimacy come from exploring with one person for a long time. At forty-six, I’m interested in a deeper love, not just sex, and I don’t believe you can get that by dating many people. I don’t know about tomorrow. Five years from now, I may be in five relationships at once and two of them may be men. I don’t know. But today
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