Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself. You start chasing. You get desperate. You forget your “why.” But most importantly, you don’t allow yourself to be happy until you get what you want. And if that never comes, you never practice being happy. (Yes, happy is built through daily practice. It’s not a light switch to flip on or a destination to arrive at.) So instead of practicing happy, I just worried and dreaded and saw the glass as half empty. The sky was always falling. This mindset kept me trapped, stunted, and in a low-grade
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