If you’re extremely busy and are accustomed to solving problems in the spur of the moment, there’s a good chance you’re leaving your kid floundering in your wake, and he’s probably not doing very well back there. We could demand that he adapt to you, but since flexibility and adaptability are not his strengths, the more realistic option (though it may not be easy) is for you to adapt to him. Once he learns some skills and you are able to solve some chronic problems together, maybe he’ll be able to reciprocate.
