With Plan A, you’re trying to solve the problem through the use of power. Power causes conflict. If you teach power, you’ll get power back. In other words, being unilateral is a good way to get your kid to respond in kind. So, is Plan A off the table completely? No, if your child is about to dart in front of a speeding car in a parking lot, use Plan A. Yank on her arm and save her life. If she blows up, so be it. But, if three weeks later she’s darted in front of a speeding car in a parking lot seventeen additional times and you’ve yanked seventeen additional times, perhaps yanking is
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