One of the things you’ll learn in the early chapters of the book is that the terms that have commonly been used to characterize kids with concerning behaviors—terms such as willful, manipulative, attention-seeking, limit-testing, contrary, intransigent, unmotivated—are inaccurate and counterproductive. You’ll also read that a lot of the things we’ve been saying about the parents of these kids—that they’re passive, permissive, inconsistent, noncontingent, inept disciplinarians—aren’t accurate or productive either. And you’ll learn that the psychiatric diagnoses that may have been applied to
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