He’s not lacking motivation? No, he’s not. But a lot of folks still think that. Why haven’t your efforts to motivate your child to behave more adaptively—with rewards and punishments—been successful? Because he isn’t unmotivated. If your kid could respond to problems and frustrations adaptively, he would. That’s because—and this is, without question, the most important theme of this entire book—kids do well if they can.
