“He’s a monster,” I say. “You’re giving him too much credit. He’s just a man,” Duncan says. “That’s dangerous. That’s how you let people do terrible things.” He doesn’t take to this. “I’m not minimizing. It’s just that if you paint a picture of him as a monster then you make him mythical, but men who hurt women are just men. They’re all of us. Too fucking many of us and all too human. And the women they hurt aren’t passive victims, or Freud’s masochists who like to be punished either. They’re all women, and all they’re doing, minute by minute, is strategizing how best to survive the man they
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