mother about Paul’s drinking, she’d say, “It’s so hard for him. Work is tough, and he’s sensitive.” She made excuses for Paul because she pitied him. Assertiveness Is the Way When someone is assertive, they will think something like this: “I know what my needs are, and I will communicate them to you.” The healthiest way to communicate your boundaries is to be assertive. In contrast to all the forms of ineffective communication previously mentioned, assertiveness is how you clearly and directly state your needs. Assertiveness involves communicating your feelings openly and without attacking
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