when we think about boundaries in the family, we think about rules set by our parents. Boundaries are not necessarily rules, however. Limits that parents have with children are expectations, preferences, and sometimes rules. Parents and caregivers typically feel comfortable communicating their expectations to children. But children often feel they don’t have a right to set boundaries for themselves.
i have to be honest, i want allowed to set boundaries. when i tried they were ignored, challenged, or angerily demolished. i was guilted into the behavior accepted by my parents and molded to fit or suit their needs predominately over mine.
