Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

by Nedra Glover Tawwab

There are two unhealthy attachment styles that affect boundaries in relationships: Anxious Attachment Constantly seeking validation Engaging in self-sabotaging behavior Continually threatening to leave the relationship Frequently arguing about how committed the other person is to the relationship Breaking up often over trivial issues Persistently questioning actions and intent, as they are seen as a threat Having a paralyzing fear that the relationship will end Desiring to be close but pushing people away Demonstrating needy, attention-seeking behaviors Feeling discomfort with being alone Avoidant Attachment Continually looking for reasons to justify that the relationship isn’t working Hyperfocusing on the negative aspects of the relationship Being consumed with thoughts of getting out of the relationship Having difficulty with self-disclosure Constantly worrying about loss of autonomy Thinking “No one is good enough” Often feeling like a regular connection is “too clingy”