Through it all, parents can help their children recognize which of their desires are thick and which of them are thin, and encourage them to cultivate the thick ones. They can do this by emphasizing things that might lead to fulfillment (for instance, pointing out that their child’s amazing piano concert from last year seems to have taken their love for music to another level) and deemphasizing those that don’t (such as putting the anxiety they feel about getting an A- because their best friend got an A into the proper perspective).
