However, I think that when my mother’s in conflict with those she’s close to, those who matter to her (her husband, my father, for example), she struggles to express her anger. Like me, she grumbles then weeps, in a swift escalation of emotion that goes straight from irritation to floods of tears and ultimately fails to articulate anything very distinct. At least that’s how I see it, for I often use the same technique with my own husband, and it’s doomed to failure. Partly because it’s difficult to communicate criticism or reproach to a person you love and live with, but also, perhaps, because
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