How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science of Finding Love

by Logan Ury

Conversation #1: The Past What are three moments about your past that you feel define you? How do you think your childhood affects who you are today? Did your parents fight? What are your fears around relationship conflict? What traditions from your family do you want to carry on in our family? How did your family talk (or not talk) about sex when you were growing up? What did money represent in your family? What baggage from your family do you want to leave in the past? Conversation #2: The Present Do you feel comfortable talking to me as things come up? Is there anything about our communication style that you want to work on? Do you feel like you can be yourself in the relationship? Why or why not? What changes would you like to make to our relationship? How well do you think we handle conflict? What’s your favorite ritual that we do together? What’s something you wish we did more of together? How well do you feel like I know your friends and family? Is there anyone in your life (family, friend, coworker) whom you’d like me to get to know better? How often would you like to be having sex? How could our sex life be better? What can I do to improve it? What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but have been afraid to ask for? How often do you think about money? Let’s talk openly about our finances. Do you have student loans? Credit card debt? Is my debt your debt? What’s the most you’d spend on a car? A couch? A pair of shoes? Conversation #3: The Future Where do you wa...