According to Gary Lewandowski, a professor and former chair in the department of psychology at Monmouth University, we’re more resilient than we think. He studied a group that you might anticipate would be the saddest in the wake of a breakup: people who had been in a long-term relationship for at least a few years, had been broken up within the last few months, and hadn’t found a new partner. Instinctually, we’d expect the majority of them to view the breakup as a terrible experience. Yet, when Lewandowski and his colleagues talked to this group, they learned that only a third of them saw the
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