Do-Be-Have: You think that if you do more, then you’ll be something and then have what you want. For example, if you keep the house clean, cook homemade meals every day, and get all the laundry done, then you’ll be a good mom, and then you’ll have a happy family. But that doesn’t work. If you think you have to do all of those things to be a good mom, you’ll be overwhelmed and stressed. Will you really have a happy family if you’re always overwhelmed and stressed?