Believe It

by Jamie Kern Lima

The people-pleaser side of me just wanted to be liked—but I could see that he was right. I spent my life championing other women, so why would I care so much about women who did the opposite? These women had shown me who they were, and it wasn’t kind, so why was I giving them my power? If I let those women take any more of my energy, they would also be taking my energy away from my mission. I wanted to tell them one thing I knew in my gut for sure: You might be tempted to underestimate me, but let me save you some time… don’t.

And remember to give yourself grace. It can take time to build a strong circle of really great people around you.

Don’t settle when it comes to who you surround yourself with.

The biggest risk to our business isn’t what the competition is doing. It’s the risk of getting distracted and influenced by it and diluting our own secret sauce.

AUTHENTICITY DOESN’T AUTOMATICALLY guarantee success… but inauthenticity guarantees failure.

‘You weren’t rejected, I hid your value from them because they were not assigned to your destiny.’ ”

Trent Shelton has one of the most insightful ways of reframing haters in a positive light. He describes haters as people who actually admire what you do, they just have a different way of showing it. He says, “Haters are just confused supporters.” And he has some very valid points. He says haters often follow you on social media; that’s love. They sometimes even create fake accounts to follow you. That’s love too. So, basically, what he’s saying is that haters, deep down inside, are actually loving us too. Beautifully said, Trent.

The warrior knows that her heartbreak is her map. —GLENNON DOYLE

BUT something has to give! So that means if we’re worrying about weight/body or other people’s opinions or any of these other issues, it’s coming at the price of something else we could be spending our energy on.

When you’re at work, be all-in and fully at work. When you’re with your kids or family or friends, put your phone away, don’t allow yourself to think about work, and be fully present and all-in with your family. When you’re carving out time for true self-care, be fully present and fill yourself up unapologetically. Realize you will never be able to do all of these things in balance. If you believe the lie that you will, it can rob you of ever being present and truly enjoying all of the most important areas of your life.